How Marriage Is Supposed To Be

Marriage is beautiful, it is where you meet somebody and you fall in love and you spend the rest of your life with that person. Marriage to me is God's way of giving us our other half here on earth. I believe he gives us our significant other to have joy. That's what marriage is supposed to be, it's supposed to be full of laughter and full of joy. Marriage should be the way God intended it to be. However, marriages are failing all over the world. Couples are getting divorced left and right, sometimes people stay married but are never really in love with that person. Marriage is failing in our world and I wish I saw more love, instead of divorce. My grandmother always told me you know right away if you found the one your supposed to be with. She always said that there should be a spark between you and that person. I truly believe that, If there is no spark, if you didn't look at that person and say "wow she's beautiful" or " Wow I really like him/her". Then in my opinion you shouldn't be married. You have to be willing to wake up to that person everyday and love them no matter what. Your going to see your husband or wife in ways you have never seen them before. You will see your husband/wife cry, get angry, how they eat, what they wear etc.. It is different then being in a relationship with somebody. Marriage is taking a vow and saying you will spend the rest of your life with that person. Marriage is a love that is bigger than this world. However, marriage sometimes does not stay perfect forever. There are going to be times where you get sick of that person. You will get angry at that person. You will do or say things you regret. But how you stay in love in my opinion is never forgetting the spark you have. Go out on dates once in awhile, say I love you everyday. Write cute letters to your husband/wife. Never forget to appreciate that person and accept them for there flaws. Remember why you fell in love with them in the first place. Marriage should lift you up and make you a better person. It should make you want to get your life together and live freely. If it changes you in a bad way and takes you away from your friends and family, That's when it becomes toxic. Be with somebody who loves you for you, and accepts you. Be with somebody who loves your family...There are so many things I could say about marriage, but one of the most important things in a marriage is having God. When you pray with your husband/wife everyday. When you go to church with that person every Sunday, When you wait until marriage with that person to have sex, When you read devotions everyday and you have that support spiritually. You will feel the love between your other person every single day. & That's when you know it is completely real between you two. I have seen marriages fail, but I also have seen marriages really work out. I pray for all of you in hopes that you find that person. Never settle less than what you deserve. For me, I have really high standards. My future husband cannot drink or smoke and he has to respect my wishes and my family. But most importantly my future husband has to want to be best friends with my dad. That is super important to me. I haven't found my guy yet, I haven't felt a spark with anybody. But I do know there is somebody out there for me. I pray all of you find somebody to spend your life with, I pray you end up with your soul mate. We are all still young experiencing life. If you haven't found that person yet, then it is all about waiting. The exciting part is he or she is out there! I wish you all the best in your future relationships. God loves you and I want you all to remember that.